I have spoken with a lot of men, or seen posts on the various groups I am a part of, on the subject of wives and masturbation. I am surprised by how many married men there are with wives who so disapprove of their masturbatory habits that they feel they must do it privately and in secret. In some cases, their wives are so against it that it's almost as though they cheating on their wives... with themselves.
I'll admit that in the beginning of our marriage, I did this behind closed doors and often secretly as well. I chalk it up mostly to just being a little embarrassed or feeling self conscious about it... all my single life, growing up, it was done in secret, after all.
Eventually, she found the cum rags when she did the laundry. I say "found" loosely because while we weren't talking about it, I also was never exactly hiding it. A few years ago, I just said, what the heck am I being so shy about? The next time I got in the shower with her, I jerked off like I always do when I'm in there alone. It opened up a good discussion and the rest as they say is history.
My wife knows now that I masturbate several times a week, often daily and many times more than once in a day. A lot of times, I still lock the door and do it in private, not really out of necessity but because sometimes I just like to be alone. But she has seen me do it often as well. Honestly, I like it most when she watches me.
She does it too and while she is still a little self conscious about doing it in front of me, she always makes it a point to tell me after she did with this sort of 'guess what I just did' smirk on her face. It's sexy as hell. Sometimes I think that look on her face afterward is worth more than watching her.